We often don’t have control over many external factors which profoundly impact our lives. Job loss,sickness, and traumatic events like assault, natural disasters, car crashes and war can and do affect us and those we love, often without warning and this can feel terribly unfair. Our first question is usually, why did this happen? And that is when we can start to self blame.
Many times, a traumatic event is made worse by the messages of self blame that we take in, even when we have had no control over the situation. How we treat ourselves in times when we are most vulnerable is extremely important to how well we will heal and recover from the shock and stress.
We have a lot of control over how we react to these situations, how we cope with them and what we can learn from them. Developing resilience, self support and awareness of how to be our own best friend in difficult times can make a massive difference in how we cope and how much we are able to appreciate and enjoy our lives.
Sometimes, we have learned one way of coping that worked well at the time, but now the coping strategy has become a problem…
By understanding the core beliefs that drive us, how these developed and how they are impacting us, we can start to make decisions that are more in line with who we are, who we choose to be and how we want to live. We can also start to recognise what we have control over and what we don’t and where we can most effectively use our energy.
I have worked with community workers and activists on burnout and stress prevention.
These dedicated people spend every day looking at very serious environmental and social problems. Having the right attitude to the work, knowing what to focus on, and staying in tune with one’s core self while doing it is critical to remaining healthy in these contex