Essential Reading

Essential Reading

Unlearning Old Patterns and Learning New Ways of Seeing

Posted by on Sep 14, 2012

Loving What Is, Byron Katie, Harmony Books, New York, 2002. “Reality is always kinder than the stories we tell about it…” This author invites readers to ask themselves four questions which can transform the way they look at any aspect of their lives. She asks “who would you be without this thought?” Curious? You will find free worksheets and information on her website. www.thework.com/index.php Non Violent Communication, Marshall B. Rosenberg, Puddle Dance Press, California, 2003. Who would have thought that...

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The Journey

Posted by on Sep 12, 2012

The Journey One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice — though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. “Mend my life!” each voice cried. But you didn’t stop. You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible. It was already late enough, and a wild night, and the road full of fallen branches and stones. But little by little, as...

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Uncovering Your Real Self

Posted by on Sep 12, 2012

Finding Your Own North Star, Martha Beck, This is an amazing self help book that is recommended for anyone who wants practical, down to earth guidance on how to find your way back to your essential self. This is the closest thing we have found to a “best friend” in book form. The Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron, G.P Putnam, New York, 1992 Another classic self help book – this is a twelve step program for “recovering creatives”. Writing Down The Bones, Nathalie Goldberg, Shambhala, 1986 Technically, this is book for...

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Relationship Issues and Parenting

Posted by on Sep 12, 2012

Hold Onto Your Kids, Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate,Vintage Canada, 2004 Excellent advice on how to keep things together with kids when it feels that they are drifting away into the grips of peer pressure. Clearly explains the powerful impact of attachment theory. Hold Me Tight, Su Johnson, Little Brown and Company, New York, 2008 A book by a well known Ottawa Emotionally Focused Therapy couple therapist that many couples find helpful in understanding the deeper issues that underlie much of the conflict in couple relationships. Healing the...

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Pain for the World

Posted by on Sep 12, 2012

Despair and Personal Power in the Nuclear Age, New Society Publishers, USA, 1983 Coming Back To Life, New Society Publishers, USA, 1998 World as Lover, World as Friend, Parallax Publishers, USA, 1991 Joanna Rogers Macy If Essential Selves could hand out an honorary lifetime award to someone who has had the most profound impact on its approach to psychotherapy, it would likely go to this peace activist and healer. She refreshingly challenges the notion that the only real problems are our daily personal ones, and teaches about Systems...

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Journal Exercise for summer, 2016

Posted by on Sep 11, 2012

Journal Exercise for summer, 2016

“The earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.” Kahlil Gibran When we are going through something difficult, and feel alone and unsupported, it can be comforting to remember and re-connect to our sense of place in the world through  seeing our place in the greater scheme of things… outside and beyond the challenges of our immediate human relationships, sometimes… Imagine a place where you feel peaceful, accepted and relaxed. Call up the details of this place and notice how your...

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